my living arrangements for now are so very different than what I am used to.
we are renting a place until our new house is built.
I was dreading it, but it isn't too bad.
there is an old couple that lives upstairs; the owners.
Hafiz uncle and Shaukat aunty.
they are retired and full of interesting anectodes. it's only been two days but they already have been so sweet to me. like yesterday morning I was having breakfast upstairs, because the kitchen is shared, and Hafiz uncle asked me if I read Quran and I said yes. And then he said you should always read it with the translation, there is an english translation downstairs if you want. And I told him that I was already on it, and thankyou. and then he smiled at me and told me, 'there is one condition though, when you read Quran you have to pray for me,'
I don't know why, but he seems to have taken a liking to me. which is awesome. both my grandfather's died before I was born and I have always felt deprived of that relation. And although I am not fantasizing of Hafiz uncle being the replacement, it's refreshing to meet someone like that.
Shaukat aunty was a psych teacher for most of her career. and she told me to have a look at her bookshelf, when i told her i was interested in Psychology as well. When she talks her passion for learning and teaching becomes so evident, while I was chatting with her she gave me a short lessons on the 16 traits of a person. So, I skimmed the bookshelf and most of them were very technical. So I picked one up called 'fundamentals of human behaviour' and I was reading a section on a Child's role within family. It didn't seem particularly impressive except for a paragaph under the section 'youngest child'.
Here is what it said: the fact that the younger child is always surrounded by larger and older individuals may result in a feeling of a physical and mental inferiority. to overcome such feelings the child may become a rebel and try to compensate for his feelings of smallness by surpassing the others in some accomplishment, by choosing a vocation different from what is expected of him or by emphasizing his distinctness from the rest of the family through asocial or nonconforming behaviour.
sound familiar?
(for those who didn't know) why, I call them uncle and aunty is because that is how it works in Pakistani culture. Any older member that cannot be called by a relation is called uncle/aunty, basically.
I think I can handle this for a few months. It will probably be beneficial for my social skills and character.
we are renting a place until our new house is built.
I was dreading it, but it isn't too bad.
there is an old couple that lives upstairs; the owners.
Hafiz uncle and Shaukat aunty.
they are retired and full of interesting anectodes. it's only been two days but they already have been so sweet to me. like yesterday morning I was having breakfast upstairs, because the kitchen is shared, and Hafiz uncle asked me if I read Quran and I said yes. And then he said you should always read it with the translation, there is an english translation downstairs if you want. And I told him that I was already on it, and thankyou. and then he smiled at me and told me, 'there is one condition though, when you read Quran you have to pray for me,'
I don't know why, but he seems to have taken a liking to me. which is awesome. both my grandfather's died before I was born and I have always felt deprived of that relation. And although I am not fantasizing of Hafiz uncle being the replacement, it's refreshing to meet someone like that.
Shaukat aunty was a psych teacher for most of her career. and she told me to have a look at her bookshelf, when i told her i was interested in Psychology as well. When she talks her passion for learning and teaching becomes so evident, while I was chatting with her she gave me a short lessons on the 16 traits of a person. So, I skimmed the bookshelf and most of them were very technical. So I picked one up called 'fundamentals of human behaviour' and I was reading a section on a Child's role within family. It didn't seem particularly impressive except for a paragaph under the section 'youngest child'.
Here is what it said: the fact that the younger child is always surrounded by larger and older individuals may result in a feeling of a physical and mental inferiority. to overcome such feelings the child may become a rebel and try to compensate for his feelings of smallness by surpassing the others in some accomplishment, by choosing a vocation different from what is expected of him or by emphasizing his distinctness from the rest of the family through asocial or nonconforming behaviour.
sound familiar?
(for those who didn't know) why, I call them uncle and aunty is because that is how it works in Pakistani culture. Any older member that cannot be called by a relation is called uncle/aunty, basically.
I think I can handle this for a few months. It will probably be beneficial for my social skills and character.
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Salams Aruba Api.
I miss you.
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